There is nothing more powerful and liberating than being yourself. But we live in a world that is constantly bombarding us with messages of perfection, creating impossible pictures of what “reality” is. And the picture that’s painted is unfortunately one that leaves us wanting, and is leading us further and further away from who we really are.
In an effort to get ourselves closer to this supposed reality, we buy into the Photoshopped bodies and plastic surgery, the posturing personas and fake fronts. And it’s all in the pursuit of making people see us the way we think we need them to see us in order to be liked.
Why do we go to such great lengths to hide who we really are? Are we so afraid that people won’t like us just as we are, untouched by a knife, a stitch of makeup, or a personality makeover?
It’s time to shed the false fronts and let our true selves shine through. It is only by being our most authentic selves that we can be liberated, after all. And the freedom of accepting yourself as you are will fill your life and your heart more than you’ve ever imagined. It may be the best kept secret of all, the ultimate reward at the end of the rainbow. Trying to be someone you’re not is an exhausting, self perpetuating exercise, resembling a never ending tangled web of false images and self hatred.
Dr. Seus once said, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” And though his prose were meant for children’s eyes, you cannot deny the truth in his words. When you change just so that people will like you, you attract people who like a version of yourself that isn’t real. But when you decide to be yourself, you attract people who like you for who you are, people who really see you, who love your imperfections just as much as they do your perfections. And that is the most rewarding and relieving experience of all.
You see, when you are yourself, you not only attract people who like the real you, but also, those are the people who you will really like. When you’re trying to be someone you’re not, you attract the people you think you want to be friends with. When that happens, you almost certainly won’t like those supposed friends because they don’t even know the real you. It’s terribly unfulfilling.
Finally, by being who you really are, you create the space that allows for others to do the same.
I don’t know about you, but I want to live in a world where who I really am is celebrated and appreciated, where my friends accept me for who I am at my very core, and where I can love and appreciate them just as they are as well. Doesn’t that sound like a nicer, more empowered world?